TEARS !!

A sign of weakness!That’s what most people think and believe. I believe in that phrase.

We often tell young boys not to cry like girls as boys are supposed to be stronger!! And at the same time one would find elders telling the grown up ladies that tolerance is something that women are blessed with which is why they are gifted with the quality of giving birth. In other words one can say that somewhere women are stronger than men (emotionally)!!

Why does a person shed tears? When something hurts a lot or when a person feels insulted or when people around them are hurt or when someone goes bankrupt etc etc.
The point is what happens before and after the tears drops? How is it emotionally connected?

My one liner when I am about to cry is “ I cant take it anymore!!” that’s what I feel or go through just before I am about to cry. And I just don’t feel it as it is , I feel it very strongly. It makes me break down like a beggar or a pitiful dependent person.

What happens before the tears are about to fall is mostly a feeling which can be said as “I feel lost”. How easy is it to make an independent person feel lost? What is independence in the first place?
The fact is that we live in a society and are always sensitive to what others feel or talk or thinks of you. No one can escape that trap. After all we are all humans. It hurts the call upon someone who does not want to talk to you, it hurts when someone passes away; it hurts when you are broke ; it hurts when u cut yourself…. The point is “it hurts”. That’s when the tears starts playing its role. How difficult is it to understand that all one runs after is happiness or satisfaction; like that in the novel – The Alchemist. Less that we know that what we look for is right there just under your nose.
We have many Hindi phrases to put all of it in few words but I am just going to move on.

My opinion about tears is weakness. But of late I have realised that tears can actually make you stronger. There are two sides to it:

First: when you have cried enough tears on something you know how badly you want it; It sometimes makes you all the more determined to achieve that something which really matters to you. After all you have cried tears on it. It should be worth that stress.

Secondly: when you have cried enough tears on something, you may stop valuing it. It stops bothering you after a while as they say “its out of your system”. Even that helps as u no longer crib or is waiting for it. You understand and relate that thing with pain.
In both the cases things stop affecting you just cause you have lost a few of the precious tears.

I am not saying that one has a option of crying every time it pains. But that the concept of taking everything into you and just waiting till you burst may not be fully correct. Its true that when u cry you cry alone…. But who decides when you should have the luxury to shed tears and let go of your pains?